My Diastasis Recti Journey

Lots of people talk about Diastasis Recti, you maybe wondering what that actually means. Diastasis recti is the separation of the rectus abdominal muscles ( the 6 pack). This separation can occur in men and women whenever there is allot of intra abdominal pressure. Examples of intra abdominal pressure is lifting heavy weights repeatedly ( happens to body builders) weight gain, and abdominal growth from pregnancy.

Often times after pregnancy this separation with heal on its own. If you are not properly engaging your core or doing the wrong exercises ( think crunches or anything that makes your abdominals bulge out) once you are cleared to workout again you can be furthering your Diastasis separation. Multiple C sections/ births or abdominal surgerys can leave your core and pelvic floor muscles weakened. It’s important to start thinking about Diastasis recti while pregnant. There are things you can do to help maintain a core connection through out pregnancy. Remember get professional help. Don’t just believe any blogger on the internet or anyone just saying they can help you. In fact don’t even believe me. Do your research, find what works for you. I’ve had people reach out to me online and say they could help me. I researched them and they had no credibility whatsoever. Not even in the medical or health and wellness profession.

Why is Diastasis a big deal? Here are some problems I’ve been having.

I am a former body building competitor one of my strongest aspects was my core. It was phenomenal. After gaining 90lbs (woah) and loosing it with my first daughter who was born via emergency C section. I had some minimal Diastasis recti after her birth, once cleared to workout I began to hit core hard. Post C section I didn’t realize I needed to be more forgiving on my core. I did get my core back into amazing shape. Pregnancy number 2 I gained 60lbs and lost it as well. However my abdominal separation is considerably larger and deemed severe where my belly button is. I have 2 small abdominal hernias as well, I am a yoga and barre instructor, I kept up with my practice through my pregnancy but I was not properly engaging my core at the time. At my 6 week check up I asked my OB/gyn asses me for diastasis. He said I was “fine”. I really didn’t feel that was so and had no direction on how to heal and prevent further damaged. 2 years later struggling with constant abdominal pain, low back pain, incontinence issues and not feeling my core. I am a nurse and do allot of full care for wheel chair bound clients. My back pain was increasing with my lifting at work. I went to my primary doctor he said my separation was very bad and he felt I had a hernia as well. He recommended seeing a general surgeon. General surgeon said I needed a full tummy tuck in order to properly manage the abdominal separation and heal my core, I also saw a plastic surgeon and the same as said at that appointment. I didn’t want surgery so I reached out to a Physical therapy office. The PT said “maybe some exercises can help you but this is pretty deep”. Quoted at over 8,000 dollars to fix my abdominal separation and over 8 weeks of down time. I decided to research some credible sources to heal myself. I had been following recommendations on some fitness professional sites but my work was getting no where. I’ve had all this extra time because of the Corona virus so I did some intense online research and it led me to Every Mother. I am on day 16 of my path and I am already feeling a huge difference. My abdominal separation is from pubic bone to sternum. I am starting to feel the upper portion of my abdominals closing. My waist is getting smaller and I don’t have as big as a mom pooch at the end of the day.

I recommend seeing a physician and ask for an evaluation to see if you have the separation.At your 6 to 8 week postpartum check up is a great time to assess you, if you are pretty far removed from postpartum don’t worry, you can assess yourself at any time follow the recommendations on Every Mother.

If you are interested in healing your abdominal separation click this link Happy Core Healing!!!


This my personal opinion ( not to be confused with medical professional evaluation. I was not paid to publish this article in anyway by Every Mother. My statements have not been evaluated by Every Mother. Always seek professional medical help when needed. Happy Reading!!

How to implement a non toxic skin care routine.

Let’s get to know your skin. The skin is the bodies’ largest organ. It absorbs all the ingredients just like a sponge; think of your pores as a swinging gateway. Not only are toxins secreted from your pores they are also let into the body this way. Imagine all the chemicals in your perfumes, soaps, shampoos, lotion, body washes, make up and other cosmetics i.e lubes, deodorant etc. not to mention household products and laundry detergent. Whenever possible we need to eliminate toxicity in our lives and our skin care routine.  One of the biggest questions are what am I looking for when it comes to non-toxic skin care?

No. 1 is be on the lookout for Parabens in cosmetics. Propylparaben, Butylparaben, Methylparaben and Propylparaben are some of the chemical names you’ll see used. Parabens are a preservative that was originally derived from different kinds of fruit. Parabens are chemicals that are produced as a preservative for foods and cosmetics developed in the 1950’s.  Parabens stop products from growing molds and different bacteria in them. They are widely used in our society. We are often consuming parabens in overabundance on a regular basis. The problem with Parabens is that they are known to be hormone disruptors. I have experienced this first hand when dealing with Estrogen dominance. The constant exposure of this chemical alters how our hormonal profile works. Parabens are xenoestrogen producers. They cause the body to increase production of the hormone Estrogen. Increased Estrogen in the body will cause males to develop breasts and have a low sperm count. Estrogen over production has a negative effect on young girls by causing them to reach puberty at much younger age. Estrogen dominance causes weight gain in all individuals, increased PMS symptoms, memory problems, and increased chance of developing ovarian cancer later in life.

Avoiding Parabens is overall very good for your health. I saw a significant change when I began removing xenestrogens from my cosmetics. I lost belly fat, felt more energy and overall lost fat deposits around my waist. My periods haven’t been as heavy and the menstrual period went from 7 days of bleeding to 5 days. I was pleased to shave 2 days off my cycle.

No 2 be on the lookout for “natural”  Xenoestrogen producers. Some of the essential oils that I love the most I must refrain from using or use sparingly. Lavender and Tea Tree oil have been cited by Medical News today as hormone disrupters. Does that mean you need to throw out all your favorite essential oils? No absolutely not! I encourage the use of essential oils however; with everything else limit your use of it in cosmetics and detergents. Decreasing exposure is important for individuals with Estrogen dominance imbalance.

No 3 be on the lookout for Sodium Laurel Sulfate and Aluminum Laurel Sulfate in your cosmetics. These chemicals were created to make skin care products foam. Sodium Laurel Sulfate strips your skin of its natural oils creating skin irritations. This chemical is also well known as a hormone disrupter and can cause Eczema as well as dry skin on a regular basis.

Use Vegan and Cruelty free cosmetics.

Whether or not you are an avid meat eater, dabble with being a vegetarian, or full blown Vegan everyone can benefit from taking the vegan route with cosmetics. Vegan skin care as a whole is so beneficial to our society, the companies creating these products are already inclined to remove toxins from their cosmetics. Non vegan cosmetics are full of Animal by products. Cosmetic Companies are often using the very waste of the animal such as urine, known as (Carbamide) in ingredients list, crushed bones ( Keratin, hydrolyzed animal proteins ) and tendons, ligaments of animals known as Gelatin or Collagen in products. Vegan companies are reducing man’s the carbon foot print placed on our planet. We are all aware of the toxins animals are eating, produced inhumanely, and increased cause of methane gases from the beef and dairy industry. By supporting Vegan Cosmetics we are essentially cleaning our air. Cruelty free means that your products were not tested on animals. Think lab rats and little bunnies. These animals were not involved in the process of creating your skin care. I see this as a plus in both ways, no animals were harmed or tortured and it means there are no heavy chemicals in your products causing need to “ test on animals” before humans,  If you believe in or practice Niyamas such as Ahimsa it maybe a personal benefit to you as an added effort to practice non harming.

Use natural detox methods and Lymph draining to improve skin quality.

Skin brushing is the act of dry brushing your skin in an upward motion towards the heart. Skin brushing increases circulation, detoxifies the skin, increases energy levels and exfoliates your skin. My personal favorite Lymph drainage method is Gua Sha. Gua sha is an ancient Chinese method of rubbing a tool against the body ( jade stone, wooden etc). I use it on my face. It increases blood flow (circulation) helps produce natural collagen in the skin, tightens the skin naturally, increases relaxation and helps with sinus issues. Getting adequate exercise, moving your body and sweating is a great lymphatic system detox as well.


Getting an adequate amount of water daily is so important for your skins appearance and health. Oily skin is often the result of dehydration. The body sends signals to your oil glands that the skin needs hydration, this causes an over bunce in oils which in turn becomes acne and black heads.  Through proper hydration these signals won’t be released as often. Water intake will prevent your skin from becoming dull, flaky, dried out and wrinkly.  I have to admit I lack in the hydration department of my skin care routine, it’s a work in progress. It’s literally the cheapest and most effective way to better skin.

Choosing non toxic skin care products

One of my favorite go to’s for finding out about vegan cosmetics and clean skin care products is the ethical elephant. I am a Glossier fan for cosmetics and they give the run down about how they are not vegan but do claim to be cruelty free. While Ethical Elephant does not help you look for sulfates or parabens a few companies I really like are 100% vegan and cruelty free Derma- E, Pacifica Beauty and Nature’s Gate. Think Dirty is a skin care app that helps you find out if your products are “clean or not.” They also offer beauty boxes. I love Maro Skin care face cleansing oil. The oils are pure, vegan and paraben free. Maro Skin care is an upcoming woman run cosmetic company out of NYC. Check them out on IG.


I was not asked by any of the products mentioned above to write this or received any benefits of doing so. Nothing in this article is intended to treat, diagnose or cure any diseases